Mate Versus C-nt
A photograph of Bridlington promenade Ferris Wheel And Fishermen © 2017.
Mate, Buddy and Pal are a few terms that I have used, for as long as I can remember, when speaking to others. I use them for friends and strangers (though my friends often are called nastier things for banter
purposes). It's how all my friends and I spoke when we grew up and how most of us still speak today. I hadn't even considered that any of my go to terms could be seen as derogatory or insulting until someone bit my head off for calling them "mate". It was a few years ago when I was employed as a warehouseman for a big
UK supermarket chain. There was a serious personal / work issue that I wanted a bit of advice about, so I sought some counsel from the union rep. I paid money every month to be a member of the union, so I thought that I would be as well to speak with a rep.
I'll show you how the conversation went in a moment, but first I'd like to point out that the union rep and I had a fairly good working relationship and there were no prior arguements etc between us until this point. Also, we worked in an environment where swear words were used more commonly than clean words. His favourite of all words being the rather nasty "C-nt". He used that word very regularly and aimed it at everyone within earshot. So with that all mentioned, here is how the conversation went (though I removed his name to protect his...whatdyacallit?).
A jpg of the conversation Don't Call Me Mate © 2017.
The Interrupting Rep experience made me think about how I had been talking to others for most of my life and to accomodate others, I brielfy considered changing how I talk as I go forward. Admittedly, I can see why some people don't like the terms used towards them and I can see some situations, particularly professional or formal ones
where such terms would be best unused. But to me things are a bit backwards when the word mate causes more upset than the word c-nt.
The photo at the top of this blog was taken in Bridlington (near Scarborough) on Wednesday. Yesterday my family and I returned from a little holiday in Scarborough and we all had a great time there. Personally, I love the way people talk in the north of England. Not to say that the south of England would be any different, I just have limited knowledge and experience of the place. I holidayed in the north with my parents and sisters as a child, plus we have some family in the north of England. Whenever I'm there I often get called sweetheart and mate. To me and, I can only assume, to many of the others using such words, they are not meant to be derogatory terms. I see them almost as terms of endearment.
Are some folks so in need a good moan and do they see a person being nice as potentially an easy target? That's not me mate.
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